The phrase once a cheater, always a cheater might not apply to every man and woman with a few indiscretions in the closet, but a history of extra-marital affairs should still be a factor in dating decisions. At least that’s the message from tattoo artist and reality star Kat Von D concerning her troubled, on-again, off-again relationship with Jesse James.
Following her usual pattern, she took to Facebook to talk through the frustration in a poignant and honest letter to her fans. Along the way, she spoke of her own personal growth, her annoyance at being lumped in with the woman who broke-up James and his wife Sandra Bullock and how that troubled past was a factor in her basic decision to give the reality star another shot. Here’s an excerpt…
There was a time when I was confident and excited at proving the world wrong, because I believed so deeply in people's ability to change for the better. Although this was not a primary purpose in the relationship, I did feel like it would be a positive thing for those who judged Jesse solely based on what they read in tabloids, to see that change is always possible - even in the people who seem hopeless….
It could be argued speaking in such an open forum about an ended relationship is bad policy, but there’s also a current of maturity running through her letter. Kat Von D doesn’t give herself a free pass, and she seems more interested in learning from her mistakes than harping on the past. It’s a delicate line, but she walks it pretty well.
In most other situations, the quoted text above would be the real story, but it’ll end up taking a backseat to the bombshell that also came out in this Facebook note. Jesse James cheated on her with at least nineteen women in the last year. Nineteen! That’s not a series of bad choices. That’s a pattern of reckless and foolish behavior.
Pop Blend sends out its well-wishes to Kat Von D. In her message, she was very clear she still believes in true love. One day she’ll find it, and all the bumps will make it that much sweeter.