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Conference Call With Starter Wife's Debra Messing
Debra Messing was kind enough to talk to the press on a conference call about her role as Molly in the new USA series, The Starter Wife. The series, which began as a miniseries and as of earlier this month became a full blown TV show, centers on Molly, a recent divorcee who is still struggling to reclaim her independence after years of marriage to a successful Hollywood producer. Thereís a nice blend of humor and drama in the show that makes The Starter Wife a nice fit among USAís other original programs. In the interview below, Messing discusses her role in the show and the challenges that come with playing Molly.
The Starter Wife airs on Friday nights at 10:00 p.m. on USA. In case you missed the premiere, weíve got it posted below at the bottom of the interview. Also, thereís still time to enter our Starter Wife Weekend Getaway Tote giveaway!
What about your role continues to challenge you?
Debra Messing - Oh, everything about Molly challenges me and thatís why I love playing her so much. Everything thatís going on in her life is new and uncharted territory for her. Her life is starting over at 40, everything from the dynamic between her new ex-husband, having to negotiate that new relationship with shared custody, to dating for the first time in over ten years, which is awkward and funny and scary, to having to discover an occupation that will support she and her daughter, and negotiating living in the same community that has ostracized her. Everywhere she goes, she is an outsider or she is trying to get her footing. Itís incredibly challenging.
With Josie and Sara doing the writing, the same writers who did the miniseries, itís justóevery day is a ride, everything from high comedy to very poignant still simple, accessible emotional moments.
How much do you see yourself playing this role?
Debra Messing - Oh, gosh, as long as theyíll let me. We just finished our first season, like two weeks ago and I was sobbing the last day, and thatís unusual for me and I think it was a clear sign that itís a special show. Itís a special group of people and itís really touched my heart and has inspired me creatively and has turned out to be a much more fulfilling experience than I ever imagined it could be.
I also think you donít have to have seen the miniseries in order to start watching the series because everything is new. Starting over at 40, it can go anywhere. And especially in the world of Hollywood in which we do social satire and we have a lot of fun poking fun at the values and priorities that are askew there, I think that there will be fodder for comedy in that world forever.
Molly is a complicated character, which is why I love playing her. Nothing is clean and simple. Her relationship with her ex-husband is messy. She still is kind of taking care of him, even though heís hurt her. Nothing is easy, so I think that especially with the team of writers and the group of actors we have I think that we could go until Molly is in the old home in Beverly Hills.
When you were filming the miniseries did you have any thought or maybe even any inclination that this might eventually go to series or was it after?
Debra Messing - Absolutely none. No, absolutely none. It was adapted from a novel and it was finite and we finished the novel. I think that what happened was that when the miniseries got ten Emmy nominations it just sort of shocked everybody, including myself. USA called and said I think weíve touched a nerve. I think that thereís something here that is modern and relevant and has not been explored in TV or film before. At least thatís what all the people who stop me on the street, the people who say, ďThatís me. Iím a starter wife,Ē or ďIím a starter husband,Ē thatís what Iíve been hearing the most is like thatís me and youíve never seen anything on TV that really shows my life and my struggles.
I think that all bets were off after those ten Emmyís and we sat down and said, ďOkay, can this be a long running series?Ē Once we realized that all the things that worked from the miniseries would be maintained, and that we just wanted to build on that and expand the world of The Starter Wife and add new characters and have fun with the storylines, we realized that it could have a long life as a series. Iím so grateful to USA that they did that.
The Starter Wife uses a lot of fantasy scenes from movies. Which one was your favorite?
Debra Messing - Oh, goodness. Itís so hard to pick a favorite because they just kept getting better and better. Right off the top of my head, Iíd have to say the Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct, which is in the last episode of the series, and playing Carol Channing singing, instead of ďHello, MollyĒ singing ďHello, Dolly.Ē Singing and dancing and doing a big song and dance number, that was a highlight for me.
Which one have you not done yet that you would like to do, do you think?
Debra Messing - Oh, goodness, thereís a whole laundry list of ones Iíd like to do. One of them is Gone with the Wind, just because where we shoot in Los Angeles is where Gone with the Wind was shot and I think sort of an homage to our location would be fun. I also would love to do a silent movie with subtitles. I think that would be really fun.
Is there anything you can tell us, if she does become successful as a writer eventually or can you lead us into that a little bit or tell us one of her struggles that she might come up with in this season that you Ö.
Debra Messing - Well, what I will say is that her writings in her journal have been sort of a social commentary, a comic social commentary of her own and that gets stolen and from that experience attention is brought to Molly and some unusual professional opportunities arise. It will certainly test Molly in terms of whatís important to her and ethics and sort of being thrown into the middle of the whole Hollywood game. Sheís going to have to be dealing with her ex-husband in the professional world for the first time. So there are some fun, new dynamics that are explored.
Well, letís just put it this way, her life is not going to become a fairly tale within ten episodes. Even if she gets a job itís not going to be the answer to everything or sheís not going to be catapulted to stardom.
Iím imagining then that thatís what you would want. You wouldnít want a character that would have it all figured out in one season.
Debra Messing - No, no, thatís what I respond to about Molly is that she doesnít have it figured out and that she is written in a way that sheís a fighter and sheís a survivor, but sheís constantly butting up against obstacles, and to me thatís real life. I love the juxtaposition of the fantasy world of Hollywood and the Utopia that is presumed in that world and the very real and accessible daily struggles in every aspect of the protagonistís life, of Molly.
How did it come about that youíre also now executive producing the show?
Debra Messing - Well, during the miniseries I was lucky enough to be invited in to be a collaborator, a creative collaborator. So I had a lot of say in terms of the rewrites and the look of the show and the casting, so it was a natural progression because itís the same writers that are running the show, and the three of us we just got on like gangbusters and respect each other and love each other very much.
In addition to it being a natural progression, though, honestly, I think it just made it easier for me to sign on for potentially another 6.5 years onto a series, knowing that the title executive producer does add some certain creative protections for me, in that, as executive producer my opinions and my voice will be at least considered if I feel like something is changing in the show as time is going on that is important to me or that I feel like is essential to the show or if they want to take it in a direction that Iím not comfortable with. And just knowing that I have that protection allows me just to dive in with 100% excitement and commitment and energy into the entire experience.
Finally, itís turned out to be something that I actually am good at. When youíre an actor youíre just focusing on yourself all the time on the set, working 14 hour days and thinking about your character and as executive producer I have to look at the whole and not just at my stuff. Itís sort of right brain, left brain work and itís exhausting, but I find it really, really just stimulating and gratifying.
What did you guys all find as producers and actors and Ö. casting crew to be the biggest hurdles to transferring from a miniseries to series?
Debra Messing - I didnít feel many hurdles. Iím an executive producer who is focused on just keeping the creative aspects of it pure. I could care less about the money and if things are too expensive, Iím just like, but, we want that actor. Iím always just keeping focused on letís just keep elevating the show in every way possible. Iím sure the money ended up being the biggest hurdle because shooting in Australia was significantly less expensive than shooting in Los Angeles. I knew that if we were going to be making this a series that it would have to stay in Los Angeles, so itís prohibitive. Ninety percent of the TV shows nowadays donít shoot in Los Angeles because itís expensive, so I would imagine that was it but I didnít feel that. That never really trickled down to me.
It was really just trying to get, figure out how many of the cast members we could get back because it was a full year later. Peter Jacobson, who played my ex-husband, Kenny, was already contracted on House, so he wasnít able to come back. So it was like okay, now we have to do a search of finding one other person who can actually do the role of Kenny, which I think is the hardest role in the whole show, and we found him with David Alan Basche. Heís incredible.
The character of Grace was so much fun, whereas your role as Molly is more deliberate in tone and speech. But the visual quirks that Grace had also seem to be taking subtle residence with Molly as we progress, so Iím wondering is it a little crossover character trait that cannot be avoided, perhaps, or perhaps theyíre Debra quirks just oozing to the surface as you get older.
Debra Messing - Thatís a good question. When I first got off of Will and Grace and we were doing the miniseries, I took the director aside and said, ďIf you see Grace sneaking in, I want you tell me because Iíve been doing it for eight years. Iím sure that I donít even realize it a lot of the time.Ē It turned out in the miniseries not to be an issue, but what I have found is that the writers like to put my character into situations that elicit physical responses, I think in large part because theyíve seen me do that before and they know that I have fun with it and I have an affinity for it.
So I like to feel that Molly is experienced by viewers as it is experienced by me as a completely different character, but Debra is also the actress whoís playing these characters and I have a certain, I guess, aesthetic when it comes to comedy and what I think is funny. That might sort of keep the thread throughout much of my work. I donít think that Debra is very much like Grace and I donít think Debra is very much like Molly, but I think Debra is in both of them and perhaps itís in that way.
I think you said you had the same writers for this series. Now are they game for writing a projected series now, it still is in the key adult demos, of course, that were 18 to 49 and such like that, which is a great span of demographic? And have they ever mentioned, perhaps, that your diary could one day be a real life general public sale diary in a bookstore for Christmas or something?
Debra Messing - Oh my goodness, what a brilliant idea. No, that hasnít been discussed, but Iím sure after today it will be.
Yes, Iíd like royalties sent down the line.
Debra Messing - And you will deserve them. In terms of diving into a series, Sara Parriott and Josie McGibbon are brilliant and they were the ones who said to me, ďWe can do this. We want to do this.Ē And we sat down and we thought about long term, whether or not there was enough there to expand into a full series. We all were unhesitant. We all felt absolutely there was. Theyíve proven to be really great at it. Theyíre just prolific. They write incredibly quickly and we were never behind the eight ball in terms of our scripts.
Itís been an effortless transition for them because I donít know if you notice, but they had done mostly films prior to the miniseries. They wrote Runaway Bride for Julia Roberts. So this is a new medium for them, but I think when youíre a talented writer youíre a talented writer.
So all the other actors on the show always have the most wonderful things to say about you, so how does everyone maintain such a good chemistry on set?
Debra Messing - Oh goodness, well, itís nice to hear that people have nice things to say about me. I love our cast and I was in every audition, every final thing. In addition to, our first priority was finding the best actors for that particular role, but at the same time we were very much aware that we were going to be spending 14, 16 hours a day with these cast members. And it was important to feel like, that we were getting together a good group of people, good human beings who are respectful and have a good work ethic and are passionate about what theyíre doing and have a great sense of humor.
We were able to do that and then you put us all together and there just happened to be great chemistry, which you canít predict. We were just lucky enough that it happened. So we get along incredibly well and we laugh a lot. The hours are hard and there are challenges with working that hard, and itís wonderful to know that everywhere you look, there are people who have your back and who are there to give you the emotional support that you need or to get you to say, okay, youíre falling asleep on your feet. Okay, do I have to do a little jig to make you laugh, or whatever needs to be done. So yes, itís a really great group of people.
Do you have a favorite on-set moment so far?
Debra Messing - Oh goodness, I have a memorable moment. I donít know that it was a favorite. It was doing the Basic Instinct fantasy where I was Sharon Stone with the famous uncrossing of the legs interrogation scene. This was the last episode and we were doing it, I was doing it in front of all the male cast members and I could just tell that everyone, including all the crew, were kind of tense because they didnít know what was going to happen. Obviously I wasnít going to go the full mile and not wear underwear while I was doing the scene. But I did know that given the nature of the scene, that everyone was going to have to be staring at my crotch for ten hours and that people were going to be shy and embarrassed because everyone is like family now.
So I decided to do a practical joke to try and break the tension and to make everyone relax. So I had white panties made up with these big block pink letters that said ďSay please,Ē hoping that when I uncrossed my legs and the cast and crew saw, that they would break up laughing, that it would ruin the take, everyone would just acknowledge how sort of weird and funny this whole thing is and then we would be able to go on and for me to say, ďOkay, Iím wearing a bathing suit bottom. We can all enjoy this.Ē
But the thing was it happened and literally nobody laughed. It was probably one of the most embarrassing moments Iíve ever had in my life. It didnít work and afterwards I had to stand up and Iím like, ďDid you not read? Did you not see it?Ē All of a sudden everyone started to exhale and laugh. They didnít know if was supposed to be a joke. They were just so shocked and stunned. And then once that I assured them that it was a joke, then everyone laughed and had good fun with it and the rest of the night was comfortable.
Molly wouldnít be Molly if she wasnít a mother. What has it been like working with the two young actresses who have played Mollyís daughter?
Debra Messing - Oh my goodness. Well, I canít say enough about Brielle, the little girl who plays my daughter in the series now. She is just so down to earth and kind and playful and sheís a great actress. Itís really inspiring and amazing to watch her work. Iíve never really worked with a lot of child actresses before or actors before and sheís crept into my heart and I love her dearly.
If Molly were your close friend in real life, what advice would you give to her to help her achieve her goals after the divorce? Debra Messing - The first thing I would say to her is donít fear change. I think that Iím someone who doesnít respond well to change. Obviously the character of Molly is going through a million changes all at the same time and it could be daunting. I think that I would say look at starting over as an opportunity to rewrite your life and fill it with everything thatís been missing.
I know that you slightly touched on what I was going to ask before, but I know that Will and Grace was filmed in L.A., but it had a very much New York vibe. The Starter Wife on the other hand is very much an L.A. type of show. Was that something that appealed to you, the opportunity to sort of enjoy and parody the L.A. lifestyle, the Hollywood lifestyle?
Debra Messing - Oh, absolutely. It was just another thing that was completely new for me. Iím in New York right now. I have a deeper attachment or affinity or what have you with New York City than I do with Los Angeles. Will and Grace and my prior sitcom, Ned and Stacy were both set in New York City. So it has just a complete, it is a completely different world out in Los Angeles.
The thing that I loved the most about it being set in Los Angeles was the discovery of the satirical tone of the comedy coming from the social satire of making fun of this place thatís supposed to be Utopia and shining a light on some of the uglier sides or shocking sides or sad sides of the culture that is Hollywood and to get a laugh out of it. Itís just a completely different kind of approach comedy wise than Iíve ever had before.
How does working in real places add to the energy of a scene to you as an actress? I know youíve done mostly sound stage work in your previous series.
Debra Messing - , a lot. It affects it tremendously. We shoot four days on our set and four days on location. It just adds to the authenticity of the show. We feel like weíre shooting a film and it adds life and flavor and colors. And I think as much as you can actually photograph the real city, the better it is for the series.
I liked that romance that [Lou Manahan and Molly] had in the miniseries and Iím sure it was tempting for Molly to take the easy way and marry him and have all the riches and fame. Iím wondering if thereís new potential that they will get back together in the series.
Debra Messing - Well, he comes back. He does several episodes and I think thatís all Iím allowed to tell you.
I see that you were encouraged to get a liberal arts education before you went into acting and you went on to get a Masterís degree. For new actors coming up today, is this still advice that youóif someone is coming up, would you still advise them to get their college education before starting their acting career?
Debra Messing - Absolutely, absolutely. I just feel like acting is about putting yourself in the shoes of other people who are different from you. The more you can learn about the world, about different disciplines, it all just feeds into making you a better actor. I also think thatís a very important time in anyoneís life, 18 to 21, and 17 to 22, you are literally becoming an adult and discovering your point of view and your perspective and what you value and whatís important to you. So I just think giving yourself a little cocoon that is intellectually stimulating and socially stimulating before you have to go out and get pounded by rejection is a good thing.
Iíve noticed you seem driven to strong female projects like this series and also the recent film The Women, which I really enjoyed. I was wondering is this conscious choice or is it just like a happy coincidence?
Debra Messing - I guess itís both. I wanted to be in The Women seven years ago. That project, as you know, was around for like 12 years before it finally got financing. I wanted to be involved because it was this iconic play and an iconic film and that it was all women, and that with an awareness that given the business in modern day, that movie would never be made with no man in it unless it had that precedent from the original film. So I knew it would be a once in a lifetime opportunity.
Beyond that, I do feel like we have a responsibility to help highlight and support the really, really talented women in our community because it is so imbalanced. Josie and Sara happen to be women and they happen to be brilliant writers and thatís why I wanted to continue to work with them was because of their talent.
But it has extended into our directing. We have our directors. We had a higher than normal percentage of female directors this season. So I think across the board there is an awareness that where things are equal, if we can give an opportunity, then itís our responsibility.
Iíve been a fan of yours since Lost in the Clouds and also the Woody Allen film you did was hilarious. I wanted to ask, do you have any future plans for producing beyond The Starter Wife?
Debra Messing - You know, not at this point. I never really had plans to become a producer to begin with. It just evolved naturally and now itís something that Iím really enjoying. My husband is a writer, he created the TV show, Damages, and we have talked for years and years and years about working together and maybe starting a production company. So I imagine at some point, only if a project arises that Iím incredibly passionate about, will I go on to do something else.
My question concerns Pamela Paulís book, The Starter Marriage. She said that people got married to be a power couple, to move out of their parentsí houses or they were just fascinated with weddings. Which do you think best fits Molly and Kenny?
Debra Messing - Oh goodness. Iíve never heard of that book before, so Iím still back on that. Can you give me the three options again?
To be a power couple, to move out of their parentsí houses, or just fascinated with the idea of weddings.
Debra Messing - Well, certainly not the third one. I donít think any of them, to be honest. I think when it comes to Molly, they met when they were living outside of their parentsí houses already. I think it was love, and neither one of them had any power at the time. Clearly Kenny had ambition and Iím sure that that was attractive to Molly when they met. And that just sort of evolved as his ambition grew and he was able to move up the corporate ladder, so to speak, and she was able to help him more and more and more. I think it just happened, it wasnít planned.
Where do you want the Sam/Molly relationship to go?
Debra Messing - That doesnít work out. Sam and Molly donít work out, but I do think it would be really great if the character of Sam came back. That could shake things up a little bit.
Do you have any friends, living in L.A., friends or family that you can draw off from the character of Molly as starter wives?
Debra Messing - I have a lot of friends and I have family who live in Los Angeles and have children in private schools or work in the industry or have been to five-year-old birthday parties with a tiger in the backyard. So everybody has a story, so we get stories from every angle and essentially the more extreme, the funnier.
And do you work closely with Gigi a lot with developing the character of Molly?
Debra Messing - No, no, not at all. Gigi, she established the character, wrote the character in the novel and then Josie and Sara, that was the leaping off point was what was written in the book. And then they took her and filled her out and made her their own.
We have a term called Mom-terage, which is a momís group of people who help them as a mom day to day, kind of like how Molly has Joan and Rodney. I was just wondering if you could talk about whoís in your Mom-terage.
Debra Messing - Oh goodness. I feel like on some level, I have my cast at The Starter Wife are in the Mom-terage because when weíre shooting Iím there every day and so Roman comes to the set everyday after school. David Alan Basche and Hart Bochner and Chris Diamantopoulos have all become sort of uncles, de facto uncles to Roman. They play ball with him and they tickle him and they read books to him and the same thing with my wardrobe girl and my make-up artist. Everyone on the set has become like a village, so to speak, you know, it takes a village. Sara and Josie, of course, theyíre like aunts as well, so luckily when Iím working I have a big village of people.
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