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This year, Jim Parsons married his longtime partner, Todd Spiewak, after 14 years together. Now the 44-year-old The Big Bang Theory actor has opened up about why he and Spiewak took their time before saying, "I do." Apparently, Parsons and Spiewak felt so rock-solid in their relationship that they didn't think marriage would improve matters. Parsons elaborated, saying,
You know, I had been an adult gay person for so long at a time where that wasn't possible that life was quote/unquote fine. I got along fine, and our relationship did.
Jim Parsons said he and his husband had personal reasons for choosing not to rush into marriage when marriage equality passed in the United States in June of 2015. Parsons indicated he and Todd Spiewak had lived the majority of their adult lives without the right to wed, so by the time marriage equality happened, they didn't know how marriage could improve their relationship. At the risk of sounding bitter, Parsons opened up and said,
We've been together---it'll be 15 years in November. Honestly, I just really didn't think we cared about the act of it all that much. That sounds cold in a way. But I finally thought, 'Well, let's have a party then, for the celebration of [the relationship], and we'll go ahead and legalize this thing.' And I really kind-of thought it would end at that, kind-of a party feel. But then it was so much more meaningful in the moment to me than I predicted. And it's been resonantly more meaningful to me afterward than I ever saw coming.
Jim Parsons is not the only gay celebrity who has tied the knot but spoken about once feeling skeptical toward marriage. After RuPaul secretly married his partner, Georges LeBar, after 23 years together, he teased they never wanted to marry but did so after reviewing the financial benefits. That joke was funny but also hinted at RuPaul's feelings toward marriage after years without the right to marry. Still, it seems RuPaul is happier than ever now.
Similarly, getting married appears to have rocked Jim Parsons' world in wonderful ways. The actor suggested nothing has changed regarding day-to-day activities or the thoroughness of his love for his husband. However, he indicated being married to the love of his life has brought him a sense of peace. There is an underlying emotion he calls "a little buzz" that thrills him when he realizes he and Spiewak have the legal commitment his parents had.
Jim Parsons and Todd Spiewak married in a private ceremony in May at the famous Rainbow Room in New York City. The wedding and reception had a celebrity guest list with attendees like Jim Parsons' The Big Bang Theory co-star Mayim Bialik. Parsons and Spiewak wore matching black Tom Ford tuxedos for the ceremony and different jackets for the reception, which you can see in this gallery from Parsons' Instagram:
Jim Parsons first revealed his years-long relationship with Todd Spiewak in a newspaper in 2012. Two years later, he told Ellen DeGeneres he and Spiewak were not anxious to walk down the aisle, as he explained to Stephen Colbert. Nevertheless, Parsons has since said meeting Spiewak was "the best thing that ever happened" to him. It sounds like Parsons loves married life even if a took a while to get there.