Why Dax Shepard Wasn't Originally Sure If He Wanted To Be With Kristen Bell

Dax Shepard, Kristen Bell - Ellen

As one of Hollywood's most affectionate couples, Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard seem to be practically inseparable. They are as tightly knit and warmly intimate as celebrity couples come, and that's hopefully not going to change anytime soon. Despite a false cheating rumor every now-and-again, the duo of actors have seemingly never wavered in their commitment to one another. But believe it or not, there was apparently once a time when Shepard wasn't quite as certain about whether or not he was willing to give his life to Bell. At least, that's what Shepard claims during a recent video interview.

I never ever was like, ‘Oh, I hope I can keep Kristen.' I was going, ‘Do I want to be with a Christian, who has eight people living in her house for free, who has to get out of a car when there’s a dog who doesn’t have a leash and ruin her whole day to rescue this dog?’ That’s great, and she’s good, but that’s not what I want to do. I’m not that good. I don’t want to spend my day finding the owner of a dog. So I wasn’t fearful I would lose her. I wasn’t certain I wanted to be with someone like that.

The surprise revelation was made during Dax Shepard's recent conversation on Off Camera with Sam Jones. In the clip, Shepard admits upfront that the answer will be "surprising" and "off-putting," but the actor/director claims he has a weird mix of low self-esteem and "unbridled arrogance" when it comes to relationships. He claims that he's "always" been that way, and the Armchair Expert podcast host never knew why. So during the early days of his relationship with Kristen Bell, Shepard claims he wasn't necessarily trying to keep the love affair alive, and he wasn't "fearful" about losing Bell.

But, of course, something changed. As Dax Shepard retells it, he grew to be less cynical about Kristen Bell's warm-hearted optimism when he found that her good deeds and fond feelings for the world around her were "undeniable." ] Shepard began to let his guard down more over time, and welcomed the generosity of Bell's life view into his own perception of the world. There was something "charmed" about Kristen Bell's life, and Shepard believes that comes from Bell's endlessly loving personality. Over time, Dax Shepard said he can't deny the outcome, and it became a drastic change in the actor's life. He wanted that, and Shepard chose to move towards her.

And then what happened, which could only happen the way it did, is that she never, ever said to me, 'You know, you could be a little better of a person.' She never, ever suggested that I should do that. Instead, I just slowly through time watched what fruit she bore out of the way she moved through life. I looked at the results of how she lived, and they’re pretty undeniable... It’s just a better life and I wanted that, so I chose to move more in her direction. She didn’t ask me to. I wanted what she had, and I replicated it.

With that, Dax Shepard claims that Kristen Bell was the first person he didn't try to "make" into the person he wanted to date. Dax knew what happens when he tried to do that. Through that, some "magic osmosis" happened; each of them could now become more open, honest, and accepting people.

You can watch the clip with Dax Shepard below.

Often times, romances don't bloom overnight like in the movies. They take time, patience, work and acceptance. Sure enough, even though Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard appear to be one of the most loving and accepting couples in Hollywood, even their own relationship took some time to form.

Will Ashton

Will is an entertainment writer based in Pittsburgh, PA. His writing can also be found in The Playlist, Cut Print Film, We Got This Covered, The Young Folks, Slate and other outlets. He also co-hosts the weekly film/TV podcast Cinemaholics with Jon Negroni and he likes to think he's a professional Garfield enthusiast.