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Ben Affleck And Jennifer Lopez: A Timeline Of Their Relationship

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck in Gigli
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When it comes to celebrity couples, there are few who have garnered more attention than Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck, who have been affectionately called Bennifer for parts of the past 20 years. The A-list couple, who finally tied the knot in a much-covered July 2022 Las Vegas ceremony, hasn’t been without their ups and downs over the years, as their initial relationship fell apart under the pressure of fame and the unrivaled media attention. The two megastars went their separate ways, starting and stopping multiple relationships before eventually getting back together.

With the rise and fall and rise again of the ongoing Bennifer saga, sometimes keeping track of the whole shebang is not the easiest of tasks. But, worry not, for we have put together a complete timeline of their relationship (so far) with all the major chapters documented in full detail...

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck in Gigli.

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Ben Affleck And Jennifer Lopez Initially Crossed Paths At Parties But Didn’t Become Close Until Filming Gigli In 2001

Before they were co-stars who started to date in real life, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez crossed paths at various parties in the later part of the 20th Century and early days of the 21st Century. However, as they revealed in a 2003 NBC primetime interview, they “barely paid any any attention to each other at all” during those early days. 

That began to change when the future couple joined the cast of Gigli in late 2001, though they didn’t initially begin to date because she had just married her former backup dancer, Cris Judd, at the time.

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez on the set of Gigli December 2001

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Ben Affleck Proposed To Jennifer Lopez (For The First Time) In November 2002

Sometime after Lopez’s marriage with Judd ended, the multi-talented star went public with her relationship with Affleck, who addressed rumors during a 2003 Vanity Fair interview about the specifics of the timeline, denying they became a thing while she was still with her husband. 

Then in November 2002, Lopez, just months after going public with her relationship, revealed during an ABC News interview that they were engaged to be married, describing to Diane Sawyer how the Academy Award winner popped the question during a visit to his hometown of Boston.

Screenshot of Ben Affleck in Jersey Girl

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The Planned September 2003 Wedding Was Postponed Due To Media Attention

Throughout much of 2003, Bennifer and their relationship was one of the biggest stories in all of pop culture, with countless magazine covers and news stories dedicated to their planned September wedding. However, that same media attention, which was addressed in the iconic 2002 “Jenny from the Block” music video, would ultimately drive the two apart.

On Wednesday, September 10, 2003, just four days before they were scheduled to tie the knot, People reported that Lopez and Affleck were postponing the wedding. In a statement that was carried by the publication, the couple blamed “the excessive media attention” surrounding their wedding in deciding to call it off. According to the statement, they made the decision after contemplating hiring decoy brides and multiple locations to throw off the press.

Gigli Jennifer Lopez looks up at Ben Affleck as he moves in closer.jpg

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Jennifer Lopez And Ben Affleck Ended Their Engagement In January 2004

The much talked about engagement between the two came to an abrupt end in January 2004, when Lopez’s reps released a statement (carried by MTV News) confirming that the pair were no longer getting married. The couple didn’t divulge why they called things off, but a source later told Page Six that Affleck wasn’t willing to give up “his bachelor life” at the time and that Lopez was “tired of waiting for him to come around.”

The pair would later break up and go their separate ways. In the 17 years following the end of their relationship, both stars got married (and divorced) and had children of their own. But, this wouldn’t be the end of Bennifer…

screenshot the tender bar and hustlers

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Ben Affleck And Jennifer Lopez Were Spotted Together Multiple Times Before Making Their Relationship Official In May 2021

In May 2021, Lopez and Affleck were spotted together in Montana, according to People. At the time, a source told the publication that the former couple spent several days with one another on an out-of-town trip and that the whole thing had been “quick and intense.” The couple was later spotted arriving on a private jet in Los Angeles following the trip.

A few weeks later, Affleck was spotted wearing a watch that was strikingly similar to one he wore in the “Jenny from the Block” music video nearly 20 years earlier. All signs were pointing toward a rekindling of the long-dormant relationship. 

JLo and Ben Affleck at the premiere of The Tender Bar

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Jennifer Lopez Made Her Rekindled Relationship With Ben Affleck Instagram Official In July 2021

The rumors about the duo rekindling their relationship were confirmed in July 2021, when the Grammy winner posted a series of photos on her Instagram account, with the final showing Bennifer locked in a passionate kiss aboard a boat. Affleck’s longtime friend and creative partner, Matt Damon, addressed the relationship during an appearance on Desus & Mero, commenting on how the press was much nicer to the couple the second time around.

Later in the year, an anonymous source told E! News that the twosome were finding ways to make their relationship work despite their incredibly busy schedules, disclosing that the pair made it a point to see each other every few days to stay connected.

Jennifer Lopez in Marry Me/Ben Affleck in Deep Water

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Ben Affleck Proposed (A Second Time) To Jennifer Lopez In April 2022

Affleck and Lopez got engaged for the second time in April 2022. The announcement was initially exclusive to Lopez’s online newsletter, OnTheJLo.com, but EW later confirmed the news as it began to spread around the internet. The ring, which contained a massive light-green diamond, was special to Lopez for a number of reasons, most notably being the fact some of JLo’s biggest moments happened when she was wearing green.

Jennifer Lopez in Marry Me.

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Jennifer Lopez And Ben Affleck Finally Tied The Knot In A July 2022 Las Vegas Ceremony

Lopez and Affleck avoided repeating history by getting married in a July 2022 Las Vegas ceremony that reportedly only cost the couple $75. Though their initial wedding was a smaller and more low-key affair, the couple had a bigger ceremony and celebration the following month in Georgia that was attended by some of their famous family and friends.

During this celebration, which was leaked without the behest of Lopez, Affleck reportedly gave a sweet and emotional speech that was 12 pages long, according to Kevin Smith. Variety later confirmed that Lopez took on Affleck as her legal name in the marriage license filings.

Well, this catches up with the full history of Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez’s relationship with all its ups and downs from over the years. But who knows, maybe we’ll have more to add in the ongoing Bennifer saga in the years to come.

Philip Sledge
Content Producer

Philip grew up in Louisiana (not New Orleans) before moving to St. Louis after graduating from Louisiana State University-Shreveport. When he's not writing about movies or television, Philip can be found being chased by his three kids, telling his dogs to stop yelling at the mailman, or yelling about professional wrestling to his wife. If the stars properly align, he will talk about For Love Of The Game being the best baseball movie of all time.